One of lifes greatest lesson is knowing when to cut someone out of your life whom you still hold love for. And if you're the one reading this, there is a good chance you are the one who would benefit the most from leaving this sistuation. I guarantee the one doing the hurting, isn't intrested in reading about walking away from toxic relationhsips. Why? Becasue they are the one who is benefiting from you staying. In fact they are probably giving you whiplash from their push and pulls. They may applogize and "act" with better behavior just to keep you but as soon as the dust settles, they are back on their bullshit.
These type of relationhsips are called karmic relatonships. They are usually with a romactic partner, family member or a friend but they can also be with other people like co workers, your boss etc... There is a reason you feel so strongly connected to them, as if it's impossible to let go. Its because you both agreed when you came to earth to teach each other a lesson. The one causing the hurting is suppose to learn what happens when they "fuck around and find out". The one getting hurt, however, is meant to learn to stand up for themselves and to not allow others to treat them like a doormat.
Unfortunatley, we get so caught up in trying to change the ones we love. We hold compassion for them. We see the good in them and hope that if we stay, they will eventually "come around" and be better. But people can't learn to be better if there are no consqences to their actions. You see, by sticking around, you are teaching them that they can do anything to you and get away with it. Like I said, if you're reading this, I can almost guarantee your'e the one who needs to learn to let go.
I experienced a karmic relationship that required me to let go of a child. Which is definetly the worst pain I ever felt, because it was my own child. It's even harder to walk away when you feel it's your responsibility to help and support someone you love and care for. But I had to ask myself, "How bad does it need to get before I say enough is enough?". Something I learned was that we can not change others who do not wish to change. We can't help those who do not feel they need help. Trying to do so, will only cause so much suffering in your life. You will end up becoming a person who you don't even regonize. Trying to change someone will turn you into a desperate maniac. No really, you will go insane trying to force something that isn't meant to happpen. If it was meant to be, then it would simply be and it would'nt feel forced.
If someone is verbally, emotionally, or physcially abusive, that is the universe letting you know it's time to walk away. These people tend to be very manitplute. They will make you feel like you caused them to treat you that way. They will never take responsiblity for the hurt they cause. They will almost always point the finger back at you. "You made me do this" type of attitude. And you may even find yourself trying to apologize and change yourself for them. But nothing you do will ever be good enough. nothing you do will make them change their toxic behavior.
And it hurts so damn much because no matter what they have done, you can't help but still love them. But something major I have learned is that you can't give someone more of what they already don't value or appreciate. All that love you have inside is such a beautiful thing. And to waste it on someone who refuses to reciprocate is a tragedy. It's a de-service to yourself and to your heart.
If you truly truly love someone, you will let them go when it's nescessary. In fact holding on is really a selfish act because that means you still hold unrealistic expectations of them. Expectations that they just can't meet. When you walk away from a toxic relationship, you are truly loving them with all your heart. Because now, finally they will learn, that they cannot get away with what they have done. That lesson is so impoartant for their growth here on earth. Just as your lesson to do right by yourself will benefit your expansion.
These karmic relationships are no joke. They will feel so right when things are good. So when things take a turn and the other person becomes vicious...something you don't regonize.. you must ask yourself, "Does this person serve my highest good?". Being 100% honest with your self is the only way up and out. By letting go of what is not right for you, makes room for what is. This is when trust and faith is most needed. Be a healthy support system for your self. I promise you, there are better things on the other side. You just have to take the first step. Remember you are not alone. There are tons of others who have gone through the same experiences. We are making the world a better place by making peace a priority. When we take our power back, we set examples for those who are lost.
It starts with you. It starts with courage. It starts with unlimited amounts of love and respect for yourself.
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